As I lay in bed this morning debating whether or not I wanted to actually get up, a new profile message popped into my head. So when I was completely and fully awake, I went over to the dating website and changed my profile. This is what is says now:
"Hi there! My name is Denise. I'm fun to be with, easy to talk to and laugh often. I can hold my own in a conversation, and love it when the conversation gets so involved that we lose track of the time. I find the humor in nearly everything and I'm told I have an infectious laugh. I'm the quintessential optimist - the glass is always half-full and there's always a bright side to everything. I believe life is full of lessons, and I live my life as honestly as possible. Life's too short to not enjoy it. I'm looking for a friend who can be a companion and who will enjoy sharing what life has to offer. I am looking for a man who will treat me the way I deserve to be treated - with the same kindness and thoughtfulness with which I treat him. Someone who will appreciate my quirkiness and sense of humor. I'd like him to have a good self-esteem without being selfish and is able to appreciate my selflessness. I am not looking to get married. I feel as tho we were meant to have companionship throughout our lives and when that is missing, we can feel it tenfold. Friendship is an integral part of a good companionship, so I'd like to find a friend first. If the friendship is a good one, who knows where it will lead."
I don't know if this will work better than the last one, but there it is. When I logged in to make the changes, I saw that one more person had looked at my profile. He was 39, in the army, athletic and toned and not looking for a big and beautiful woman. My guess is I popped up on his search grid but I'm not what he is looking for. No biggie.
I do have 5 new matches. I thought we should go through them together!
Candidate number one is 48 years old, athletic and toned, has never been married and has no kids. He doesn't want children but it's okay if his partner has kids, and is a social drinker. In his own words: "I have a lot of interests, but the ones I spend the most time on are, music, TV (Tivo has really changed my TV viewing habits!), movies (especially DVDs), weekend getaways, and home remodeling (not necessarily in that order). I'm pretty low-keyed, and can be comfortable in almost any setting. Thanks again for looking! Write for more info. You can ask me anything, and I'll give you an honest answer. (Please be specific, i.e. not "tell me about yourself.") I'm looking for someone reasonably normal to spend quality time with. I'm not looking for perfection. Mostly I'm looking for someone who doesn't add too much drama (stress!) to my life. Someone honest and kind and easygoing, like me. Someone who has their life in some sort of order, or maybe has a plan to get somewhere." I think I'll give him a maybe and check his profile later.
Single man number two is 52, slender, divorced and has kids who live away from home. He's a protestant, social drinker who doesn't smoke. He's 6'6". Very tall and very thin. Probably not a good match for me. I'll write down his name and look him up for the complete profile tho, cuz I am curious what he put for his dates stats. He's a writer, which I like so he's a maybe.
Profile number three is 42 years old, athletic and toned, divorced with no kids. He's a social drinker who doesn't smoke and he's catholic. (too bad for him) In his own words, "Very outgoing man - Love to be busy with work and with play of course. I'm hoping to find someone that is as fed up as myself with the dating scene is Vegas. Anyone can get dates - but the person Im looking for wants to go on that second and third and so on. Looking for someone sporty but can also be a lady. Was born and raised in northern cal "wine country" and still love and miss it. " I think he's a no!
This next one sounds really desperate to find someone. Makes me wonder if he is who he says he is. He's 51, divorced with no kids, athletic and toned, a social drinker who doesn't smoke. In his words, "I am a intelligent, handsome, caring man looking for a friend to enjoy all the world has to offer. This is the best time of my life and I want to share it with you, a wonderful, fun loving, smart women who knows what she wants in life. I am strong in mind, body and heart, and always live life to it's fullest. We both have our feet on the ground and want that special someone in our world. I am a person that loves having a partner to share all life has to offer." And actually, based on what I'm reading, we are looking for the same thing, and we like the same places. He could be a maybe so I won't say no tho my instinct tells me I should.
This last one, I know I've read the profile bio before but not for this individual. That tells me this one isn't who he says he is. Here are the words, "would describe myself as fun-loving, caring, friendly, hopeless romantic and devoted. I am somewhat shy at first until I get to know someone if it is a one on one; but I also tend to cut up if I am in a crowd I am comfortable wearing a pair of jeans to a formal gown and is very versatile. I don't need a woman to complete me as I am okay with being by myself. But it would be nice to have that special someone in my life to share What I am looking for at this time is someone with the same interests to hang out. With the hopes that he would become my best friend and soul mate. I think the ultimate woman would be someone who was geniune, honest, fun to be around, caring, able to carry on a conversation with me, not at me." I think it's been copy and pasted (which is what I do to get it here) from somewhere else. Regardless what the other stats are or what his picture looks like, I'm going to say no. I have strong feelings on this one.
Now I'm going over to the search area to look up the profiles of those I maybe'd. The first one I'm looking up is the one that I think I will disregard... the one that my instincts tell me he's not who he says he is. As I suspected, he's looking for a woman 5'0" to 6'6". Those are his only qualifications. So I'm not going to do anything else. I'm gonna let it go.
Now I'll look at the first profile that I said maybe to. He's looking for a short, slender woman. I'm pretty sure I'll get the thanks but no thanks email, so I'll let this one go.
Last but not least, the really tall, thin guy is looking for someone 5'2" to 6'2" - so he likes 'em short. But he also wants her slender to average.. not even a couple of extra pounds. So I'll let him go as well.
I don't have to wink or email these men, because like the profile looker that I found this morning, then they log in, they'll see that I've looked at their profile and if they are curious about who looked, they'll come over and look at mine. I'll let you know which, if any, actually did look.
So that's what they gave me today. Although I've only just begun this journey, with each profile I read, I'm leaning more and more in the direction that these sites only work if you are fairly young, thin to average, and are deemed beautiful. I'm no longer young, have never been thing to average, and have no idea if I'm beautiful. But, I won't let that deter me... I'll continue to wade my way through their matches. What I'm really curious about is how long before the matches start to repeat themselves???
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