Are men realistic?

Being on a dating website really opens ones eyes to what men want. What I find really interesting is the type of woman for which they search. At least 90% of them put their idealistic woman as athletic and toned, slender, curvy, or about average. A few will actually put a few extra pounds as being okay, and even fewer will list full-figured. Are they serious?

One of the men who popped up in my search criteria wrote this in his bio: There's 6.79 billion people in the world and 1.9 million in the county where I live. I'm just looking for one. I believe that it is possible for two people who are mutually attracted to each other and that have compatible lifestyles to find each other. However, I don't like lop sided relationships where one is more attracted to the other. I been on both sides and I don't like it either way. I believe we need to be mutualy and equaly attracted to each other. I try to eat healthy, stay in shape and take care of myself. I am attracted to ladies who do the same. Although, I do admit, I like a fat juicy burger now and then too.

Naturally, I emailed him. I said, ""There's 6.79 billion people in the world and 1.9 million in the county where I live."

Do you know what sucks? That 90% of the men in this county are looking for this body type:

Athletic and toned
about average
slender
a few extra pounds.

I guess I'm screwed, huh?"

He replied: I believe there is someone out there for everyone. You just got to find them. Be patient and determined.
And keep seeking.

I couldn't let that go. I had to give him a reply. I said, "The problem I keep running into is the "thanks, but no thanks" response. I presume I'd get that from you, as well.

Seeking is easy. Finding, not so easy.

Good luck to you, however. I'm sure you'll find what you're looking for, even if I don't."

I haven't heard back from him yet. Of course, he hasn't been on in three days. Still, it makes one wonder. Incidentally, he also listed his ideal mate to be athletic and toned, slender, curvy or average. Go figure. I'm thinking ... if he does answer back to my last email, I'm going to start an actual conversation with him. See how far he will let it go ... how far we can take the conversation. Of course, that's a big IF!

It's just so damn frustrating. I mean, I know I'm doing this strictly for research purposes, but still.... Why can't men admit that if they found the right woman, intellectually, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, that it won't really matter what she looks like. I've already nabbed two husbands who weren't necessarily looking for a big woman. In fact, the second husband was looking at cocktail waitresses when he met me. I was definitely NOT his physical type. But I proved to be his type in every other area of life. (and they didn't break up with me... they would have been happy to stay with me... I broke up with them for different reasons) I guess if I'm going to change their minds, make them see that realistically the perfect woman for them might not have the perfect body, I'm going to have to argue my case better than I have so far.